there is nothing outside you
There is no help coming from outside
There is no help that you can give to anybody.
You have tried to transform a fat woman in a slim, beautiful one – a poor man in a rich one – an employee in an entrepreneur – a fragmentated being in a man of integrity – a slave in a free man…
It is impossible. You will realize that in life there is no one can escape from the role that one is called to play, then your attempt to change the life and destiny of someone else not only will fail but will violently return on your shoulders.
Respect anybody for the role that he or she naturally plays in life, and never try to change his/her horrors and fear in something that they can never sustain and be responsible for.